This page features three writings, the first entitled "Your Love Walk." The second and third writings are about "Blocks to Love Walks."

                                                                         

Your Love Walk

As a Christian, how do you handle life’s tense moments? How do you manage your emotions through these moments? How do you deal with hurt, anger and confrontation? How do you react to harsh words, rudeness or sarcasm? How do respond when someone criticizes you, offends you or insults you? Could the answer to these difficult and sometimes complicated questions be love?

Sometimes this answer called love sounds so simple people are skeptical about it. They say the answer of love is just an easy cop-out. People expect the answer to be harder, more complicated. But when you get to the root of how to handle every problem, confrontation, challenge, difficulty and high emotional situation, the answer is love. Love is not always easy; sometimes it is tough. Bottom-line, it takes love to get through it.

The Bible is full of the word love. We already know God is love. I could fill the rest of this website with scripture after scripture on love. To be loving means many things. First of all, it means to have a good love walk, to love your neighbor, to be a good witness. You are loving the Lord when you have a good love walk. If people know you are a Christian, they will be watching to see how you behave in situations, how you react. This means you must be a good representative of Christ in this world, a good "ambassador for Christ." Remember, it's not what the situation is, it's how you react to it that counts. You should display a peaceful Godly confidence. You know you have the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus and that nothing can separate you from the love of the Lord. You have the knowledge of God’s word, the knowledge of truth. You must be a person of high integrity in what you say and do, not only in the big things that people might see but in the small things that people don't see. When talking, speak good words, words that will edify others. Sometimes being loving means to remain silent. Being loving means to not judge others. Luke 6:37, “do not judge and you will not be judged." Again, be a good witness for Christ.

To have a good love walk means to display the fruits of the spirit. These are found in Galatians 5:22 "the fruits of the Spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generousity, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." These are repeated in other verses such as Colossians 3:12-14 and in Ephesians 4:2. The Colossians verse adds compassion and humility to the list and talks about "bearing with each other and forgiving one another, just as the Lord has forgiven you. And to "clothe ourselves with love which binds everything together in perfect unity." Try to display fruits of the Spirit in every situation. Ephesians 5:1 says to "live in love." Be peaceful and patient, don't react harshly with anger or bitterness, don't quarrel. There is a scripture in James 1:20 that says “anger does not produce God's righteousness.” This means that anger does not have the approval of the Lord. If you get angry about something remember, Ephesians 4:26* "In your anger do not sin, do not let the sun go down while you are still angry and do not give the devil a foothold." Loving Christians do not walk around full of anger and are not easily stirred up by the hate, anger or criticism of others.

Love is also joyful. The Lord wants us to be joyful no matter what our circumstances and to endure all things with patience while joyfully giving thanks to the Father. Nehemiah 8:10 says “Let the joy of the Lord be your strength." This is not always easy, because the enemy is trying to steal your joy and with it your strength. “Let the joy of the Lord be my strength” should be one of your core scriptures that you repeat day after day, especially when the going gets tough.

Next time you are stretched in your emotions or stressed, think about it before you react or say something. Pause. Slow down. Pray quietly for strength and courage. Be loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, generous, faithful, gentle and have self-control. Think about these fruits of the Spirit. Don't let the devil steal your joy. Let the Holy Spirit be your guide. Let the peace of Christ rule in your heart. Love is always right. And with it, you will never go wrong.

*NIV 

   

                                                                                                                                                

Blocks to Love Walks

I would like to take a moment and speak about mindsets or strongholds that block walking in love. I will talk about three mindsets: Fear, Lack of Forgiveness and Pride. There are other love-blocks about which I will also explain briefly but these three are the major ones.

The first one of these is fear. An acronym for F-E-A-R is "False Expectations Appearing Real." These can be lies of the enemy that are not real and not true. Most of the stuff we fear won't happen, we just think it might so that can immobilize us, steal our joy, make us insecure and take away our Godly confidence. Fear is the opposite of faith. The Bible tells us in Psalm 55:7* to cast our cares upon the Lord and says "Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall." The only fear we should have is to fear God, that is a healthy fear. As a Christian, do not live in fear. How do you do this? Use the word of God and apply your knowledge of the truth to the lies of the enemy. The best way to overcome a lie is with the truth. And cast your cares to the Lord in prayer. Matthew 11:30 "For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

People can be afraid of many things. They can be afraid that somehow they will lose their job, which causes stress and blocks their love walk. If you realize this, then do something about it. Pray about it, give it to the Lord and step out in faith to solve the issue, to give yourself peace. If you really want to see God's blessing in your life, start tithing. People can also be afraid of what others think of them or fear authority, have phobias or a lack of self-confidence or self esteem. Again, use the word of God to combat fear. In the name of Jesus, speak out your fears, speak out scriptures out loud, so your ears can hear, that you are using to overcome them. Scriptures to speak out to combat fear are: Psalm 23:4 says "I fear no evil, for you are with me." Psalm 27:1 "The Lord is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear." It says in Romans 8:23 "if God is for us who can be against us." These are good scriptures to use in your prayer life to combat fear and there are many others. Jeremiah 29:11, is a great for this too, this scripture talks about God's plans for our welfare, "for good and not for evil, to give us a future and a hope."

Another block to a love walk is a lack of forgiveness and walking in anger because of it. People who not forgiven a wrong against them can be angry people. Unforgiveness will eat you up inside, the bigger the wrong, the harder it is to forgive. But Jesus hung on the cross and in his dying words he said in Luke 23:34 "Forgive them father for they do not know what they are doing." If Jesus can plead for forgiveness at that moment, we can forgive others to. Colossians 3:13 says, "Bear with one another, and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive."

Unforgiveness can hurt you more than the person to be forgiven. They might not even know you're angry with them. When you release a person in forgiveness you are releasing yourself. Try to work through anger by giving your blessing. Romans 12:14 "Bless those that persecute you, bless do not curse them." Verse 17 says "Repay no one evil for evil but take thought what is noble in the sight of the Lord." Verse 19 "Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God." When having angry thoughts remember, anger does not have God's approval. Remember to tame your tongue in how you speak about others, if you constantly mull about it in your heart and complain, it will reinforce your anger. Forgive and move on. In Luke 6:37 it says "Forgive and you will be forgiven." In Ephesians 1:7 it says, "in Him (meaning Jesus) we have redemption thorough his blood and forgiveness of our trespasses through the riches of his grace." And the Lord's prayer says, "Forgive us our debts as we forgiven our debtors." Forgiveness, whether it’s a large issue or a day-to-day smaller situation, is key to overcoming anger and walking in love.

Another stumbling block to walking in love is Pride. People who walk in pride can be angry, impatient people, thinking that the whole world should do it their way, on their schedule.  Pride is self-centered and greedy. Pride is jealous of others: it is never content, it does not want to share, it brings people down instead of lifting them up. It promotes strife and quarreling. In 1st Peter 5:5 it says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." So if you want grace, be humble. Jesus says in Matthew 5:5 "Blessed are the meek for they shall shall inheirit the earth" and in Matthew 20:16 he says "the last shall be first and the first shall be last." In Romans 12:16 it says, "Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly, never be conceited."

No one is perfect and those that appear perfect all the time and never admit a weakness are setting themselves up for a fall. It takes humility and strength to admit weakness. Paul admitted his weakness in Romans 7:24 in talking about his own sin saying "What a wretched man I am." Jesus was God on earth and he exemplified humility in his life in every way from his birth to his death. He was born in a lowly stable and died a sinner's death on the cross. If Jesus and Paul can be humble, so can we. Pride can destroy your life and rob you of your joy. Let's be humble. Let’s be gentle. Let’s be sharing. Phillipians 2:3-4 "in humility consider others better than yourself" and "Look not to your own interests but to the interests of others." Humility is also about respecting status and honoring the leadership and authorities in your life. This can be at work, in the government, in your local community or church or in your own family. Exodus 20:12 "Honor your father and your mother."

Reach out to your relationships. If there is relationship repair to be done or an apology to be made, don't wait in pride for the other person to make the first move, you be the first to reach out in love. It's a win-win situation. If they respond in love, that's great. If they don’t, that's Ok. You can walk forward knowing that you did the right thing.

*NIV

                                                         

Other Blocks to Love Walks

Other blocks to walking in love to be aware of are Grief, Loneliness and being in Physical Pain along with the Depression or Hopelessness that can follow each of these. These things can shake you to your core; especially the sharpness of new grief or constant physical pain. Just know when facing these trials you are not alone. Jesus wept with grief when Lazarus died. Jesus felt intense pain as the nails were being driven through his hands and feet. Jesus knew loneliness as he hung on the cross crying out in a moment of desperation in Matthew 27:46 “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Job also suffered more than just about anyone in the Bible when he said in Job 36:15* “But those who suffer he delivers in their suffering, he speaks to them in their affliction.”

Praise the Lord, miracles do happen however victory is most often a process and not always easy. But blessings can come from the process. Believers have the tools to walk forward in victory no matter what our circumstances. Have faith and give yourself time while boldly proclaiming the cross with praise, prayer and scriptures that address the issue. James 5:11 “Indeed we call blessed those who showed endurance. You have heard of the endurance of Job and you have seen the purpose of the Lord, how the Lord is compassionate and merciful.” If possible, one way to get your mind off yourself is do something for somebody else that can be a blessing to you and others.

Apostle Paul suffered. In 2 Corinthians Chapter 11 he speaks about being beaten with rods, flogged, lashed, near death, in danger, hungry, thirsty, cold and naked. He wrote most of his writings, bold and loving words of victory, while in jail, in chains. In Philippians 4:13 he wrote “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” 2 Corinthians 1:7* “And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.” And lastly, 1 Thessalonians 5:18 “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

One more verse to help you with your love walk when dealing with grief, loneliness or physical pain, is Revelations 21:4 “he will wipe every tear from their eyes. Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more, for the first things have passed away.”